April 2, 2008

a case of the 7's

many things come in sevens, (continents, wonders of the world, days of the week, chakras, notes on a musical scale, colors of the rainbow etc). so there is a school of thought that believes our life cycles flow in 7's as well...

0= birth, it is our foundation. by age 7 we have gained a sense of self, in terms of separating ourselves more and more from the womb. by 14 we have been taken into puberty and the ability to procreate; our response-abilities begin to take an incline at this time. by 21 we begin being taken through varying stages of independence as we traverse the often murky terrain of adulthood.

so here i am, approaching my 4th seven year cycle. age 28 should bring us into the cycle that is all about life purpose and our creativity (hence this often begins the bulk of our childbearing and rearing years). and fittingly, i have been contemplating and working on LIVING my life purpose as well as being planted in the trenches of child rearing...

i often wonder how many people contemplate life the way i do, it seems so many people just drift throughout life not really evaluating its ins and outs and really doing what they can to make the most of the gift. ...and then i am thankful to have people in my life i can build with who do share common viewpoints and approaches to life. but anywho...

these last years of this 21-28 cycle have been challenging to say the least. i think this phase just showed me how much i DIDN'T really know. there was lots of trial and error. there were lots of triumphs too, but there were many times where the triumphs felt like they were muted by all the trials. i must say though that i feel much wiser than i ever have and i am grateful for every experience, even the ones i think i could have done without.

some of the biggest lessons i've learned were to:

  • ...trust myself more (especially my spiritual faculties)
  • ...come into full realization of what being a woman is (i imagine, i will continue to learn lessons revolving around this)
  • ...not be afraid of being wrong because being wrong gives you an opportunity to be right the next time around. and also, it's not so much about being right and wrong, but more so about doing what we know is BEST (that ties back into trusting oneself). when we do what we know is best for us at the time, there is no right and wrong...and no regrets. i endeavor to live a regret-free life.
  • ...not be afraid of being ME! this is a big one. it also ties into my first one, but it has more to do with my power and overall purpose. i no longer stunt and stop myself from living (power)FULLY...i am truly the center of MY universe...i create my conditions...
i have also learned the value of friendship and sisterhood. these two things have taught me SO much and they are also things that i could not have done without. motherhood has also been a tremendous teacher that i could in no way begin to write about here. but i can definitely say it has been a wonderful addition to my life that i do my best not to take for granted.

so they say the next life cycle at 35 should be all about knowledge and spiritual vision. so my focus right now is to build on all i have acquired before, so i can make use of it in a higher way both now and especially once that next cycle rolls around (God-willing). and my life purpose...i've recognized that a huge part of my life purpose is to be a teacher. in being a teacher i am also a student, so i look to learn from every circumstance i create and even those that i don't...

despite the tumultuous times of my 20's, i look forward to all that's ahead. with as much as i've gone through, i feel inspired, strengthened, en-couraged and confident i will get through whatever is ahead with a lot more savvy than i have before and isn't what this life thing is about?

1 comment:

Bjoyful said...

Can I just give you a hi-five in everything you said? I really enjoyed this blog because once again you can learn from other people's experiences, bad and good. What you think may be regrets for you can be someone's encouragement. I mean we all fall down, but it's nothing like getting up and moving on. So, to live life without regrets is a hefty goal, but even if you have a regret, if someone learns from it, it can kinda nulls the regret. Does that make sense? Like some of the things I have been through, yo, I been through for me and for others. Anyway, girl...I am looking forward to the next blog. Thanks for reminding us with life is about and coupled with everyone else's blogs, it's a constant reminder that we are not alone and that we too need to recall things, not for only our benefit, but for others as well.